“One who holds back rising anger like a rolling chariot, that one I call a real driver; other people are but holding the reins.”
~ The Buddha
It takes two to quarrel: the other person can throw down the gauntlet, but we don’t have to pick it up. When someone criticizes us or contradicts us or speaks in an unpleasant tone of voice, there is no quarrel as long as we remember that we have the choice not to reply in the same manner. Trouble starts only when we react on the stimulus and response level – which may be all right for two-year-olds but not for mature men and women. At such times, it will help us to be more patient, and our example will help the other person to be more patient too.
~ Eknath Easwaran